With every positive pregnancy test a journey begins. A journey of love, hope and fear. Very early we have to learn to accept that not everything is in our hands and we hardly have any other choice than to have confidence. Sometimes or even often, this journey ends unexpectedly and too soon. We feel love and we care for this small life from the evry first day. With great care we hold it in our body and do everything in our power to let it develop.
The more progressed a pregnancy was, the greater and deeper our love and care could have grown, which we suddenly cannot give to anybody anymore. Maybe we are now overwhelmed with emptiness, grief or disappointment or all together. Every woman and all parents are grieving in their own way. It is of great importance to be able to grieve. Even if there was nothing to be seen from the outside yet.
I have experienced my own story and have told many women. That is when I noticed how many women appreciate reporting their own experience, full of love, grief and often full of pain. Talking about my experience had a healing effect, because the journey, being as brief as it was, has taken place nonetheless.
As a TCM therapist I wish to be there as a support for every mother, who has experienced a miscarriage or a still birth. I want to help to heal physically. In the emptiness following a miscarriage or still birth it is essential to mind your body and your blood. For a fertilized ovum to develop into a small human being our body is achieving incredible performance from the very fist day. With the sudden ending of a pregnancy, we lose, aside from the small being, energy, essence and - mostly - a lot of blood. In TCM the blood is considered the home of the spirit. When we are lacking blood, our spirit cannot retreat, relax and build up strength anymore. Even if it is hard to accomplish, it is advised to focus on your body and the strength to refill your blood in order to be able to bear the emptiness of the soul, find yourself and be whole again.
After our early miscarriage I felt empty myself and have aged by years. I was glad for help.
Dear mother of a small human being or a very young child, I send you a lot of love and strength.
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